We all love kids, right! Of course, who doesn't! They are so cute, loving, adoring, innocent and beautiful at heart! But just like every coin has two sides, dealing with kids too has its own sides and side effects!!!
Today in my post, I am going to address the issue of KIDS TANTRUMS as per my personal experiences that I go through daily and even RIGHT NOW!
KIDS & TANTRUMS themselves are two very strong and heavy words that are enough to drive any mother crazy!!! There is no certain age where the kids actually start showing them. They are present since the child is born! But yes, they start becoming recognizable and prominent as the child starts growing up (say after 10 - 11 months .. thats when my boy started his) .
Before the child completes a year or starts walking, the intensity of tantrums is somewhat tolerable... like, -
* They will make faces while eating.
* They would just want to play and not listen to you.
* Ignore you.
* Starts shouting or learning to cry and getting things done etc.
As they grow up, 1+ years, the intensity just keeps getting better and better shooting up! My son is 1.5 years and has understood it completely that if mom is shouting at me, start crying in front of grandparents and they will save! Initially none of us took it seriously and we would somehow do what exactly he had plotted for, but later on I realized that this is getting into his nature and he was making it a habit thinking it as a saving tool for himself!
Secondly, another tantrum that he often throws up these days is shouting out loud with eyes full of tears till he gets the thing that he is asking for! No matter whatever the thing is.. (Matchbox, Glasses, Mobile Phones, Tablets, Laptop, Wallet or even Medicines). This is indeed annoying and I at times start loosing my mind dealing with this shouting and not stopping till he gets it! [SLAP... comes to my mind, but this DOES'NT WORKS! Trust me moms, Beating isn't gonna help at this stage]
Basically, till now, these are the two states that I deal with every now and then. I am sure most of the mother's would be able to connect themselves with the above situations.
REMEDY
Well, I am no doctor but a simple mother. So the so called "REMEDIES" for the above mentioned situations are simply my personal experiences and what I personally do to deal with them DAILY!
I have understood that there is no hard and fast rule or a fixed remedy to deal with kids tantrums but it is all about Experimenting with the child.
For the first situation, I had very less scope to experiment as usually there are times when you HAVE TO scold the baby for something he / she is doing or did and then I just could not do it! Note mommies, however annoyed, irritated and angry you get, DO NOT RAISE HAND ON YOUR CHILD in this situation (Requires all to develop a very high level of patience). It is because the child develops a good and bad feeling for people around him / her and will start running from you as he will develop a dislike for you and then it will be very difficult for you to bring him close to you and be good friends with him.
So always, keep your calm, be patient and in such a situation, try to DIVERT the child's mind to some other activity of his choice and lastly if the crying and blackmailing persists, IGNORE the child for some time, do not give much attention. Yes, these kids are experts! They are well aware about how to grab attention of their mothers or say any other! Raising hand will only worsen the issue making the child cry harder and you, restless and more angry! So, one of the best ways that I personally follow for this behavior is DIVERTING THE CHILD by giving / offering him something more lucrative which is constructive in nature and is appealing to him. I have few Pre-school books for him that have huge and colorful pictures of animals, flowers, fruits etc. and it does work. Also, they toys that one should be selecting for children must be engaging in nature, making him / her learn and also not dangerous for the child (having no spikes, very small pieces that could be swallowed etc.). For this, battery operated toys are a better option as the colors, music, and movement does attract and engage the child. (I at times complete my one post using this technique!)
And, experience is the best teacher. You also can keep experimenting with your child's likes and dislikes and what makes him less tantrum maker. Do not forget to share your success story about Tantrum Vs Mom!
Cheers...
